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Cyber Self-Harm – The New Adolescent Trend

January 21, 2021 by Marisol Guerra-Garza

Cyberbullying is the use of electronic communication to bully a person, typically by sending messages of an intimidating or threatening nature. According to firstsiteguide.com, recent studies have shown that 7 in 10 young adults experience cyberbullying before they hit the age of 18, and cyberbullying is the use of any type of harassing, threatening, and demeaning language with the intent to cause emotional and psychological harm. The most common types of online bullying are posting mean comments, starting online rumors, make sexual remarks, sharing screenshots of other’s posted content; and are most often posted to make fun of a person’s appearance, intelligence, race, or sexuality.

Adolescents that have reported being cyberbullied also report experiencing low self-esteem, low self-worth, social anxiety, depression, and suicidal ideation. Recent studies also show that more adolescent suicides are connected to teens being bullied online.

With the internet already dubbed as a dangerous and influential platform, most people are shocked to find out that not only are teens more prevalent to being bullied online, but that 35% of them participate in cyber self-harm aka self-trolling. In other words, teens are anonymously bullying and trolling themselves online.

According to goodtherapy.org, this new trend also known as digital self-harm, is more common among males than females. Multiple studies also show that most males do it for attention while females participate in it to cope with depression and psychological pain.

In addition, sites like cybersmile.org and firstsiteguide.com report that, researchers believe that most teens who practice this trend are doing it for the following reasons:

  • A cry for help
  • To gain popularity
  • Buildup their self-esteem by triggering compliments
  • To get attention
  • To test friendships
  • To regulate emotion
  • To punish oneself
  • To gain a sense of control
  • To combat dissociation
  • Boredom

The concept of Cyber Self-Harm is relatively new to most people; but is a growing issue among adolescents. Any form of self-harm that is not treated can ultimately become a habit. According to whatis.com ways that parents can help and support their child if they suspect this is occurring is too:

  • Maintain open communication
  • Monitor online usage on all social media platforms regularly
  • Avoid judgement and listen with an open mind
  • Build a positive support system
  • Consult a professional if deemed necessary

It is important to also understand that most parents will want to blame technology for their child’s behavior. However, technology and social media platforms are merely a tool for expressing the behavior.

 

Self Injury: Reasons for the Behavior

January 15, 2021 by Ashley Bono

Written by Ashley A. Bono, LPC, LMFT

  In the course of my clinical career as a therapist, I’ve seen many people present with different mental health diagnosis. By far one of the most perplexing mental health problems that I have worked with is self harm. Since I work mainly with children and adolescents, the problem of self harm is one that I come across on occasion. Each time a case of self harm presents itself, the following questions tend to come up: How did this happen? What made my child decide to hurt themselves? How do I respond to my child wanting to injure themselves? How do I get them to stop? While there is no clear cut answer to these questions, many professionals have undertaken the tremendous task of researching possible reasons behind the self harming behaviors. Listed below are some of the reasons that researchers have so far uncovered when it comes to self injury.

  1. Low Emotional Affect. Whenever I ask young people why they tend to cut or try any form of self injury, the most common answer that I get is that they want to feel something. Many individuals who self injure tend to feel numb, or feel like their emotions are not working very well. Self harm tends to kick start an emotional response by putting the individual’s primary focus on the pain that the injury has (Hooley, J.M., & Franklin, J. C., 2018).
  1. An increased desire to punish self. Many individuals who have self harming behaviors primarily do so with the idea to punish themselves for a perceived slight or wrong (Hooley, J.M., & Franklin, J. C., 2018). This is especially true in cases where the individual has undergone extensive trauma (Hooley, J.M., & Franklin, J. C., 2018).
  1. Increased attention from others. While some individuals self injure to punish themselves, other do so in order to gain attention from loved ones or peers (Hooley, J.M., & Franklin, J. C., 2018). Because of the serious nature of self injury, the individual may get extra attention from people that they usually don’t get attention from due to the fact that they are deliberately putting themselves in a potentially dangerous situation (Hooley, J.M., & Franklin, J. C., 2018).
  1. A desire to fit in. Believe it or not, individuals that self injure can be heavily influenced by peers that tend to self injure. Individuals who self injure often have a hard time making healthy connections with others, which drives them to be attracted to those who tend to show the same negative behaviors (Hooley, J.M., & Franklin, J. C., 2018).

While the possible reasons for self injury may vary there is one question that has yet to really be fully answered: How do we treat self injurious behavior? Some researchers agree that it is important to treat the self injury at its very source: an unbalanced mindset (Hooley, J. M., & St. Germain, S. A. (2014). Many individuals who self injure have a low self esteem to begin with, so it is essential to help the individual see the value that they possess as human beings in order to effectively treat the self injurious behaviors (Hooley, J. M., & St. Germain, S. A. (2014). It is also important to help the individual find healthy ways to cope with pain and activate a positive emotional response besides going for razor blade (Hooley, J. M., & St. Germain, S. A. (2014).

If you’re the parent of a child or teenager who has self injured or is currently self-injuring, you may be wondering what my role as a parent in all this is. First and foremost self injury is a sign of deep emotional pain. It does not necessarily mean that you’ve been a terrible parent or have not been there for your kids. In fact, there are times when kids tend to cut as a result of not getting too much support at school or in other environmental areas. This problem, however, requires extra vigilance on your part as a parent. If you’re dealing with a child or adolescent that is currently self harming, here are some tips to help you navigate this problem:

  1. Don’t panic or punish your child for self-injury. As we said before, many individuals how self injure tend to do so to feel something other than a flat affect or numbness. Yelling at your child or panicking because they are self injuring often causes a child to retreat further in to themselves to the point where they may not want to disclose anything to you.
  1. Don’t be afraid to have hard conversations with your kids about their self injury. There are instances when cutting can be a sign that your child or teen wants help. It is important to listen to what they are saying through their behavior, and also be willing to talk to them about what is really going on. Be mindful of their reactions as well as understand that your child may disclose something about you that you may not want to hear. However, if you let your child know that you will do your part as a parent to help change the situation, your child may end up being willing to open up to you more.
  1. Be sure to put everything that your child could use to injure themselves out of their reach. If your child is self injuring it is important to ensure their safety first and foremost. This may mean that you have to do weekly room checks or check to see if any new injuries are coming up on them physically. This may also mean that you have to put away things that you use on a daily basis (i.e. knifes, razor blades, curling irons, etc.).
  1. Work with your child to put together a plan of action for when they feel like cutting. Many children or teens don’t know how to effectively cope with painful feelings so they resort to cutting or other maladaptive behaviors. Having a coping plan of action helps build up the necessary skills that children need in order to adapt fully and in a healthy way to a difficult situation. This may mean, mom and dad, that you as a family have to get creative with coming up with skills that your child can practice. It also may be helpful to put together a list of skills and strategies up in your child’s room in order to help them remember what skills they agreed to.

While self injury may be a difficult problem to navigate, it is still possible to walk through it and come out the other side a little bit wiser. The key to navigating this problem is being willing to help your child or your family member who self injures find a way to express their emotions as well as allows them to feel their emotions in a healthy and genuine way.

Utilizing Meditation During Times of Uncertainty

May 26, 2020 by Marisol Guerra-Garza

For many of us, the past 2-3 weeks have been anything but normal. With the COVID-19 virus on the rise, and local government rules and regulations changing daily, it is no surprise that most of us are experiencing higher levels of stress and anxiety. Many of us have been mandated to work from home, our children’s schools have closed, we’ve been told to practice social distancing, and certain foods and household products have become scarce. These, along with a slew of other concerns have found their way into our daily life and threatened to jeopardize our mental health.

One way to help offset these higher levels of stress and anxiety, is to practice meditation. According to liveanddare.com, meditation is a mental exercise that involves relaxation, focus, and awareness. Meditation can be done individually or in a group setting. And while it is important to set aside time for self-care, getting your family involved could potentially provide them with some much needed de-stressing along with some family time. In addition, several benefits of meditation include reduction in depression, stress, anxiety, and it even assists with mood regulation, and building resilience, according to positivepsychology.com. In children, meditation can help boost self-esteem, motivation, develop empathy, and improve attention span. There is no need to overthink or spend a lot of time preparing; just find a comfortable spot if practicing individually, or an ample space in your home to fit your family. Begin by finding a comfortable place to sit, close your eyes, and make sure to focus on your breathing. If you’re just starting out, begin by meditating for 5 minutes at a time. Then, gradually increase that time to 10 minutes, and then 15 minutes. I suggest utilizing a meditation app or any of the available videos on YouTube, to practice guided meditation. Many of the videos and apps have the option of incorporating music, which for some helps them keep focused and relaxed during the process. There are even videos specifically for children that any parent can enjoy and participate in.

With so many different variations, and the encouragement to make meditating your own, it’s no surprise why many individuals incorporate it into their daily routine.

Helpful Links to get you started:

How to Meditate

Conversation Starters for Kids About Mental Health

May 8, 2020 by Alex Reustle

1. What are you most grateful for?

2. What are you most looking forward to this week?

3. How do you feel about things changing?

4. What color best describes how you’re feeling today? More than one color?

5. What are the most interesting things about you?

6. What animals would we all be and why?

7. If you were a superhero, what would your power be and what would you be called?

8. What scares you and why?

9. What are you most proud of?

10. Miracle Question: “Imagine that while you were sleeping tonight a miracle happened. While you slept, ______________ (insert problem here) mysteriously disappeared. When you got out of bed the next morning, what would be the first thing you noticed that would clue you in that a miracle had happened?

Expanding Cultural Competency- LGBT Population

May 8, 2020 by Valerie Perez

Written by: Valerie Perez, Doctoral Intern

Given the melting pot that makes up the United States, one of the qualities that psychologists are striving to obtain is the ability to be culturally competent. It is crucial now more than ever to be able to work with individuals that come from different backgrounds and still be able to provide an effective service.

Discrimination in the past has caused divides amongst many groups based on gender, race and religion. In the most recent past, individuals that identify as part of the LGBT community have also been at risk to endure the backlash, homophobia and othering that is felt with minority groups. It is my hope that these individuals are afforded the same safe space in the mental healthcare world as any other individual seeking help. Some things that these individuals may find helpful in therapy is having their therapist be proactive in LGBT education as well as implementing the correct use of pronouns in a session. For example, for transmen, the use of “he, him or sir,” (or whichever pronoun they identify with) can go a long way to build a strong therapeutic alliance.

Other suggestions are to refrain from asking questions out of curiosity and rid the assumption that the cause of their stress or trouble is somehow related to their sexuality or gender identity. Magnifying their sexuality as the main topic of conversation has the potential to negatively impact the alliance and pathologize a nuance that may or may not be an issue for them. Therapists are a beacon of hope, safety and change and we are doing a disservice to our LGBT clients when we act counterproductively. It is truly amazing how the little things we do in our conversations can make the world of difference in the therapeutic experience. So, what are therapists to do that do not share the same views as their clients? How are they to navigate these situations where their moral values clash with their ethical obligations to their clients? This has been a controversial question that has seemed to make its way up into the legal realm and has changed the language of policies across the states.

In my personal opinion, the answer is simple: treat that client no differently than any other human sitting in the chair in front of you, for it is an inevitable truth that we dive into lives that will always be different than our own. It is in these idiosyncrasies that they find their strengths and embrace the comfort of being unapologetically themselves. Ultimately, we must take care of the unique privilege we are granted as psychologists to be allowed into a person’s deepest vulnerabilities

Help at our Fingertips

May 8, 2020 by Valerie Perez

During these uncertain times, it is especially important to practice introspection and utilize the resources around us. For some, this might come naturally and easy and for others the thought of a broken routine has jolted the world into chaos. Nothing makes sense, tension is up and social distancing has turned into a punishment. Usually, during times of crisis we urge individuals to go visit their local mental health centers and work through the problems with a team of professionals. Well, it was only during a pandemic that we have been able to see the privilege we are afforded by physically being present with a therapist. This transition to tele-health has brought forth a plethora of new experiences and logistical considerations.

Mental health professionals have had to collectively shift their clinical structure onto online platforms in order to continue serving their clients. The one platform I want to highlight is the use of a national crisis text line. This support line is used to serve anyone in the United States experiencing a crisis through a text message medium. Understandably, this text line has seen an increase in texters reaching out for help with covid-19-related concerns. In one of their recent blogs tracking the makeup of their texters as well as the different coping strategies they have found themselves doing during self-isolation. For example, more 18-34 and 44-55-year-olds have been reaching out for help after the influx of covid-19 repercussions. Even though this is expected to happen due to the limitations set out on how we are allowed to interact, crisis text line volunteers have ramped up their outreach and have been fighting hard on the mental health frontlines.

Despite these higher than normal numbers, individuals going through this isolation alone have found themselves sleeping, doing yoga and eating fruits and vegetables more often than their non-single counterparts. This speaks volumes about the strength these individuals have during tough times and the resources they use to get them through. Individuals have had to adjust their normal self-care routines and adapt to the space they find themselves in during quarantine. Others have had to reflect on the importance of priorities and learn new habits to keep themselves going. Regardless, it is important to keep in mind that everyone’s mental strength is different and it is up to us to check-in on our loved ones and support other’s concerns. Each day is experienced differently and each is considered valid. These difficult days reveal the courage we have and the power we have when we work as one.

Lublin, N. (2020, April 2). Notes on Coronavirus: How is America Feeling? Part 3. Crisis Text Line. https://www.crisistextline.org/data/notes-on-coronavirus-how-is-america-feeling-part-

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