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Healthy Personal Boundaries 

January 19, 2023 by Shan Oliver MS LPCS

Personal boundaries are the lines we draw around our personal space. They help us control our emotions, behavior and interactions with other people. Healthy boundaries help us maintain mental and physical health. People who don’t take care of their boundaries often find themselves unable to cope with others’ actions.  

Anyone can learn to maintain healthy boundaries by choosing to do so. Most of us have a finite amount of energy; we can’t spend our lives doing what we want. We need to learn to say no to things that take away from our precious time. We also need to know when to say yes to things so we can balance our life. Learning how to set boundaries keeps us from burning through all of our resources and leaving nothing behind.  

It’s also important to define and respect your own boundaries; you need to know how you want to be treated by others. People tend to cross boundaries without even knowing they’re violating someone’s feelings. It’s important to set firm, respectful boundaries with others- especially family members, friends and romantic partners. That ensures others respect your boundaries while also knowing when you’re being too harsh or unreasonable. 

It can be tough to know when someone is trying to push your boundaries too far. A common example is public speech or behavior- such as in schools, work or public spaces. Other people may also try to push your boundaries by attacking your emotions or financially exploiting you. In these situations, it can be helpful to talk about what’s happening with a friend or family member who can help you navigate the situation safely and effectively. 

Maintaining healthy boundaries is a challenge for anyone who wants to regulate their behavior and time allocation. It’s easier if you learn to identify and respect your own boundaries as well as the limits of others’ patience and generosity toward you. Never let others push your boundaries without discussing it with them first- otherwise, you could end up overstretched and unable to cope with the resulting stressors on your health and finances. 

 Healthy personal boundaries are about knowing when to say “no” and understanding that it’s okay to put yourself first. It’s important to recognize your needs and express them to the people around you so that everyone can come to an agreement that works for both parties. It’s also essential to be mindful of your own limits and to establish firm boundaries that allow you to protect yourself from overextending yourself. You should also make sure to practice self-care and take time for yourself to recharge and avoid burnout. Establishing healthy personal boundaries is an essential part of self-care. It means setting limits that help you maintain your mental and physical health by not allowing others to take advantage of you. It also means honoring your own values and needs, so that you can make decisions that are in line with your goals and ambitions.  

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Ray has been an extremely effective therapist utilizing a multitude of different techniques, including talk therapy and EMDR. He is very intuitive, kind, and sensitive to his patient's needs. Cannot recommend him enough.

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I love this place. Office is super helpful for scheduling and payments. I do all my appointments online. My counselor Raymund Begaye is always professional and helpful, and offers different therapies including talk therapy and EMDR. Counseling with Ray has improved my quality of life and ability to handle, and enjoy (!), my life.

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I have dealt with 2 therapists in the past, and I can tell you from experience that Raymund Begaye is world class. He has all the wisdom, grace and savvy of Hannibal Lector without the cannibalistic tendencies. Always selfless, supportive, and non judgemental, meeting Raymund has been a huge blessing in my life. I know from the bottom of my heart that he got into this business because he cares about people and the human element. He also thinks outside of the box. His knowledge and ability to conduct EMDR sessions have been pure gold. I was skeptical at first about EMDR, but after several sessions with Raymund I can honestly say past traumatic experiences that have kept me in a state of bondage, are not as intense as they once were. Raymund is a true American hero in many ways. He saved many lives fighting for our great country, and he continues to save lives by providing hope to the hopeless.

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February 9, 2024

I've been seeing Ray for over 3 years now. He has helped me work through so much of my trauma. We started with talk therapy and it was a big help. As we opened up through my past traumas, we utilized the EMDR therapy, and let me tell you, it works wonders. I'm not sure of the exact science behind why EMDR works but I promise it does. I've come along way from the start of my therapy journey. Ray is very patient, understanding, and even when you think he doesn't get it, he does. He's always been very reassuring and has let me ease into dealing with my past. I think I found my therapist for life because before him, I had gone through several therapists that never made me feel like I'm being heard. I would recommend the EMDR therapy to anyone. Thanks InMindOut for employing such a wonderful therapist. Please don't let him go anywhere lol.

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February 8, 2024

My therapist has been Ray B since fall of 2021. I was diagnosed with PTSD after the death of my husband. We were together 24 years and have a son. I know I'm alive today thanks to God and Ray. His techniques, patience, experience, care, effort, ideas and many more I can't think of, have been amazing. Ray is a blessing in my life.

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December 25, 2023

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