It was the middle of the pandemic and nothing was helping me out of my rut. It was difficult to think positively when the threat of COVID meant we were forced into isolation. But who was I to complain? I had a job, my health, and the news of progress toward a vaccine was a […]
InMindOut Blog
Three Things
Years ago, during a troubling time in my life, I went to a therapist. She was an amazing woman who allowed me to explore who I was. At that time, I was young and recently married with no kids and difficulty adjusting to married life. I was very comfortable working with her and allowed myself […]
Modeling Behavior
“Albert Bandura’s social learning theory suggests that observation and modeling play is a primary role in how and why people learn. Bandura’s theory goes beyond the perception of learning being the result of direct experience with the environment. Learning, according to Bandura, can occur simply by observing others’ behavior” (UC Berkeley.edu). Years ago, while training for […]
“Suggested Readings”
One of the main tools I use in therapy is suggesting readings for clients. Below are five books I have suggested many times over the years. There is a book about trauma I read this past year and found it profound. There are two books about self-care that I’ve recommended to a lot of my […]
Mindfulness Origami
Mindfulness is defined by “a mental state achieved by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations.” It is a practice that improves self-acceptance and focus while reducing reactiveness and thoughts about our past and future. The good news is that we can use mindfulness […]
The true meaning of self-care
I have been reflecting on what “self care” truly means to my clients as of lately. Self-care is a term that is used so often and I believe that considering what each individual is going through, this can look different for all of us. Self-care is the definition of taking care of ourselves in all […]
Therapy: What to expect in the first session
Seeing a therapist can seem like a daunting task. Talking about yourself to a stranger can lead a person to avoid therapy even though they may need it. As a result, it is important to be compatible with the therapist. Therapists are aware of the necessity for compatibility and the goal of the first session […]
Music as Therapy
You’ve heard it said, “music is universal!” Music is almost always a theme in any activity that we, as humans, engage in. From celebrations to funerals, in group settings or even just alone in the shower, we revel in it. It speaks to us on a soul-level. We identify with it, and it can even […]
Creating Healthy Boundaries
What is a boundary? A boundary is an invisible line that can be created by an individual to determine what behaviors from others are acceptable to them. This boundary can be physical or emotional depending on the context and person(s) they are creating this boundary with. Other types of boundaries can differ depending on the […]
Not Defining Individuals by Diagnosis
What is a diagnosis? I know that many of you are even wondering why is a therapist of all people asking a question like this. I ask you to just go along with me for a minute or two and then I’ll explain why I’m asking this question. Clinically, we would say that a diagnosis […]